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Lori A. Smithers

Funeral Services for Lori Ann (Demo) Smithers, age 49, of Ogdensburg, will be held on Saturday, August 3, 2019, at 2:00PM at Frary Funeral Home, Ogdensburg, with Deacon Mark Lalonde officiating. Calling hours will be from 12:00PM until the time of the funeral services at Frary Funeral Home. Lori passed away unexpectedly on Saturday, July 27, 2019, at her home.

Lori is survived by her husband, Rodney Smithers; three children, Megan Smithers, Marissa Smithers and Jared Smithers and his wife, Deborah, of Katy, Texas; her twin sister, Tina Demo and her brother, Richard Demo and his wife, Anna; a step-daughter, Harmony (Zackary) Quinones of Central Square, NY; two special nieces, Natasha (Benjamin) Wenson and Brooke Ghize; one nephew, George Ghize; and two grandchildren, Lucille and Owen Smithers.

Lori was born on July 17, 1970, in Rochester, the daughter of Richard Demo and Marjorie Christie. She graduated from Madrid-Waddington High School in 1988 and later graduated from SUNY Canton in 1999 with an Associate’s Degree. She later obtained a Bachelor’s Degree from SUNY Empire in Business Administration. She married Rodney Smithers on July 05, 1997 at St. Mary’s Cathedral. Lori first went to work at United Helpers in 2001 as a Director for Fund Development and later in March of 2017 became Foundation Director at St. Joseph’s Home.

Lori enjoyed skiing, kayaking, riding motorcycles. She loved spending time with her family and her dog Brinks. Lori’s true love was volunteering and helping others.

Donations may be made in Lori’s memory to the SPCA, P.O. Box 594, Ogdensburg, NY 13669.

57 Condolences

  • Posted July 30, 2019 4:15 PM

    Please accept our deepest sympathies. Lori was a lovely, kind and caring woman. May God bless all of you❤️
    Ken and Kathleen Hilborne

  • Memory Malley Posted July 30, 2019 5:01 PM

    My sincerest sympathy and love to the whole family. Lori was a beautiful person, inside and out. She was well loved.,I hope you can find some grace and peace in just how beautiful she was, as you get through this very rough time..

  • Darlene Moore Posted July 30, 2019 5:21 PM

    Marisa we are deepleysaddened by the. Loss of your Mom. I only met her once and it was at one of the sport events. I know by the way she spoke she adored you and loved watching you play. May your memories lesson you and your siblings loss. God bless all your family

  • Darlene Moore Posted July 30, 2019 5:23 PM

    Marisa we are deepleysaddened by the. Loss of your Mom. I only met her once and it was at one of the sport events. I know by the way she spoke she adored you and loved watching you play. May your memories lesson you and your siblings loss. God bless all your family. Joe and Darlene Moore

  • Lori Montpetit and son Robert “Hunter” Montpetit Posted July 30, 2019 5:35 PM

    Our deepest sympathies to the entire family. We are so sorry for your loss.

  • Kate Bell Posted July 30, 2019 5:35 PM

    Megan , Marissa , & Jared , we are so sorry about the passing of your mom . Want to let you know we are thinking of you , and if you need anything let me know . Your in our prayers,
    Love , Kate & Doug Bell

  • Ramona Breen Posted July 30, 2019 5:36 PM

    I am still in shock over this sad news of Lori’s passing. My deepest sympathies go out to her family and friends and they are all in my thoughts and prayers. RIP Lori.

  • Chuck and Ann Johnson Posted July 30, 2019 5:41 PM

    Our Deepest Sympathy to all of Lori’s family. To lose a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, so young, A woman who loved so much and who was loved so much gone to soon. May your minds be flooded with smiles and laughs she gave and your hearts mended as time goes by. May you feel her in the warmth of the sun and the gentle breeze of the wind. May a smile come when you hear her name. Praying for Strength and Guidance for all. Blessings. Chuck and Ann Johnson

  • James Mitchell and Catrina Savino Anderson Posted July 30, 2019 5:50 PM

    We are both deeply saddened and shocked by her sudden passing. We both think of her as one of the most sincerely nicest people that one could ever hope to meet. I worked with her many many years ago at a little gas station in town and her kindness and gentle spirit has left a lasting impression on me to this very day. RIP Lori

  • Tammy & Paul Drummond Posted July 30, 2019 5:57 PM

    Marissa and family, please know you are all in our thoughts and prayers. Hugs to all!

  • Lisa Creighton Posted July 30, 2019 6:35 PM

    My condolences to all lori’s loved ones…peace be with her and all of you

  • Allen & Mary Rishe Posted July 30, 2019 6:42 PM

    Tina, Rich, Anna, Megan and Family, Know we are praying For each of you during this very difficult time.. Let your memories give you strength . We are truly sorry for your great loss.

  • Jerry & JoAnn Deloney Posted July 30, 2019 7:19 PM

    Megan, we are so very sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family.

  • Sue Lockhart English Posted July 30, 2019 7:56 PM

    Rodney: May all the happy memories help you through this sad time. She had such a beautiful smile and was beautiful through and through. She is at peace and will be watching over all her loved ones. Prayers for all of you.

  • Bonnie Purtell Posted July 30, 2019 8:16 PM

    My sympathy to the family. Lori was a wonderful lady, she was part of the family, through her work with the Uniter Helper’s Orphanage Reunions. She was always so sweet andn kind to everyone and she was a wonderful friend. She will be greatly missed. Please take comfort in the knowledge that she is now in the hands of the creator and will always be loved and cared for there, she will remain in the memories of all of us who knew her. May God Bless!

  • Nellie Lucas Posted July 30, 2019 8:33 PM

    I am so very sorry for your families loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you during this sad time.

  • Vicky Garrabrant Posted July 30, 2019 8:33 PM

    Marissa – my deepest Sympathy to you and your family. Please know that I am always here for you . Love Vicky Garrabrant

  • John E Oakes Posted July 30, 2019 8:54 PM

    To the family of Lori Smithers. I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep all of you in my thoughts and Prayers. I will always remember her beautiful smile. She always had a kind word to say and it was amazing how she loved taking care of people. Rest in peace Lori you will be missed for sure.

  • William Poole Posted July 30, 2019 9:08 PM

    Rodney, Megan, Marissa & Jared & all family & friends,
    Our sense of loss and grief at Lori’s passing from this life to the realm of eternity Is as ominous as a snow cloud over the St. Lawrence and as varied as the thousands of islands in this majestic river. . What a privilege and joy it has been to know her and to love her as she loved so many and showered so many with her volunteering and caring. Her major role in the establishment, planning and staging the re-unions of the early residents of the United Helpers has generated boundless thanksgiving and appreciation and earned our eternal respect and gratitude.
    Tears, nor words of sympathy will ever bring back the touch of those loving hands; nor the music of her beautiful voice .
    With heavy hearts, awe and reverence,
    Bill & Dottie Poole
    Tonawanda, NY

  • Lizzi Posted July 30, 2019 9:17 PM

    I am so very sorry and heartbroken for all of you. My beautiful friends Megan and Marissa. And your brother Jared. Praying for strength and peace to find you all. I adored your Mom since the day I met her, she was the kind of genuine that is so hard to find. It was easy to tell how proud she was of you girls. And Jared too. She loved you all so much. I remember how excited she was to be a Grandma. Lori always treated my daughter like her own, she once opened her home to us when we were in need. She always had the right words to say and was the type who left you feeling lighter, more positive. Whenever i dropped by with either of the girls she never let leave without a hug. The world was a better place with her here. Sending so much love and many prayers.

  • Scott Madill Posted July 30, 2019 11:09 PM

    To the family of Lori Ann (Demo) Smithers. Sorry for your loss. She was a Beautiful young lady. Even though she is gone, she will live on in your hearts forever. May she Rest in Peace, and may God be with her.

  • Wanda Young Posted July 30, 2019 11:25 PM

    I am so sorry for your loss, may she rest in peace and blessings to you.

  • Jane Remi Posted July 31, 2019 4:04 AM

    My condolences to all the family she was a beautiful person inside and out. May she RIP

  • Stephen McBath Posted July 31, 2019 5:21 AM

    So shocked to hear of Lori’s passing. Worked with her at UH. My condolences to the family.

  • Jennifer (Raleigh) Dellicicchi Posted July 31, 2019 6:19 AM

    I’m so sorry to hear of Lori’s passing. My thoughts are with Lori and her family.

  • Stephanie Frisina Posted July 31, 2019 6:39 AM

    May you find peace. Sorry for your loss. Knew Lori through work, such a wonderful girl. Always spoke, I enjoyed running into her. So pleasant. Love to all.

  • Michael Lira Posted July 31, 2019 7:06 AM

    My thoughts are with the whole family. What a sweet person. My heart goes out to all of you.

  • Marti MacArthur Posted July 31, 2019 7:36 AM

    To all of Lori’s children, Tina and siblings, I am so very sorry for your loss of Lori. I know Lori loved you all so much and may all of your good memories help your heart heal at this this time. She was always so kind to me.

  • Ella Sovie Posted July 31, 2019 7:53 AM

    Words aren’t enough when it comes to the loss of a loved one. My heart goes out to family and friends of Lori at this most difficult time. Thinking of you. May God bless you and give you strength.

  • Nikki Denny Woods Posted July 31, 2019 8:46 AM

    My sincerest sympathy to Marissa and her entire family during this most difficult circumstance. Your mom was so sweet and friendly whenever I encountered her…even when I accidentally thought she was her twin Tina….my heart is breaking to lose such a beautiful sole on this earth…May you all find peace knowing she is in heaven!

  • Jean (Rowe) Clouse Posted July 31, 2019 9:37 AM

    Smithers family- I am so, so sorry for your loss. Lori and I worked side by side for a lot of years at UH and we had some wonderful times together. I have a lot of really great memories of Lori. She was a generous person who had a heart of gold. She will be sorely missed by many.

  • James Morrison Posted July 31, 2019 10:22 AM

    I am so sad to have learned of Lori’s passing. We worked together for a number of years and I always enjoyed our interactions. My thoughts and prayers are with Lori’s Family.

  • Pam Richardson Posted July 31, 2019 11:20 AM

    I am so sorry for your loss. Lori was always a kind person and always had a smile for you. She was beautiful inside and out. May you all have strength to carry on. She was loved by so many and will be missed. God bless you all. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers

  • Leslie Schneller (Ritchie) Posted July 31, 2019 11:24 AM

    Lori was a wonderful person, and will be missed by so many. God bless all her family and friends.

  • Mary A. Dumas Putney Posted July 31, 2019 1:41 PM

    I am so saddened to hear of this tragic news….May god bless this family with lots of love and prayer…I knew Lori for many years growing up in waddington…..Rest in peace Lori.

  • Kim and Joel Gilbert Posted July 31, 2019 2:01 PM

    Rodney and family we send our condolences to you and your family Lori was loved by many she will be dearly missed god has taken another angel may she RIP .I hope you find the love. And strength for each other god bless you all we are truly sorry for your loss

  • Francine Naccarato Posted July 31, 2019 7:13 PM

    I had the pleasure of working with Lori at United Helpers, and enjoyed that time immensely. I am shocked and saddened by this incredible news. She was so young, loved life and her children and pursued her many interests. What a tragic loss.

  • Bethanie Ashley Posted July 31, 2019 8:46 PM

    My deepest sympathies to Rodney and his children

  • Sarah Hopper Posted August 1, 2019 6:43 AM

    Marissa, I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother was a very kind lady.

  • Jake Yaeger Posted August 1, 2019 8:33 AM

    I would like to offer you and your family our deepest and most sincere condolences Tina, our thoughts are with you!

  • Julie Cruickshank Posted August 1, 2019 8:38 AM

    Tina, Sending you and all of your family prayers for strength at this difficult time. My thoughts and condolences are with you. Sending Hugs!

  • Suzan McDermott Posted August 1, 2019 8:59 AM

    I am so sorry for your Loss. Keeping the family in my thoughts.

  • Roger Sharlow Posted August 1, 2019 9:25 AM

    Tina and Richard, my hearts breaks for the loss of your beloved sister. To Lori’s husband and children, you were blessed with a wonderful caring wife and mother. I remember the Demo children growing up in Waddington. While it has been some time since I have seen any of you, I always lit up when I saw Lori’s picture in the newspaper as part of an event or celebration. Her professional success was inspiring and so deserving. Rest in Peace little Angel

  • Jan & Dennis Robinson Posted August 1, 2019 10:36 AM

    Tina, I know when someone passes unexpectedly it’s so very hard to accept and understand. It’s my hope for you and your family that you remember not only the special times with your sister, but those ordinary little things we seem to forget over the years that will cause you to smile.

  • Carrie Raines Posted August 1, 2019 1:08 PM

    Tina, I can’t begin to imagine how it must feel losing your twin so unexpectedly. Always hold onto those happy memories you shared and keep them so close to your heart. My heart aches for you and your family having to go through all this. Sending all my love to you and your family!

  • Dawna Larue Posted August 1, 2019 1:37 PM

    I’m saddened to hear about lori. I will always remember her smile. I had the pleasure to know her when we both were at United helpers .my prayers are with the family at this difficult time.

  • Rena & Jay Rolfe Posted August 1, 2019 3:22 PM

    God bless and guide your family through this most difficult time. So sorry for your loss. Prayers .

  • Barbara Cruikshank Wilson Posted August 1, 2019 5:56 PM

    Rodney and family, I as many others have broken hearts with the passing of Lori. We worked side by side at United Helpers. I always admired her level of energy as well as her beauty inside and out. She didn’t have to be asked twice to help anyone. She was a faithful servant to all and I for one will cherish the memories of such a wonderful friend and coworker. God Bless you all.

  • Colleen Evans Posted August 1, 2019 8:24 PM

    My sincerest sympathy to Marissa and her family during this difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss.My thoughts and prayers are with you

  • Colleen Sheridan Posted August 2, 2019 10:38 AM

    I am so very sorry for your loss, Tina! I know there aren’t any words that can take away your pain; you are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless!

  • Debby Colton Posted August 2, 2019 12:34 PM

    I am at a loss for words. She was such a kind and generous person. She was a wonderful person to work with. I pray that’s God be with you all during this difficult time.

  • Penny Ames Posted August 2, 2019 12:43 PM

    So very sorry to hear about your sister Tina. My heart goes out to you and your family. Sincerely -Penny

  • Dr. Ravinder and Mrs. Barbara Agarwal Posted August 2, 2019 8:55 PM

    We are so sorry for the suddenness and great loss for your family to bear at this time. May God grant you peace and the comfort of many family and friends who loved Lori to get through these weeks ahead…. May she rest in His Eternal Peace.

  • Michelle Matthews Posted August 3, 2019 7:24 AM

    It’s been a week since I have learned of Lori’s passing and my heart still hurts. This is a tragic loss for everyone. Lori had a kind soul and a warm heart and was incredibly driven. Rest In Peace Lori and may all of the great memories live on to comfort your family.

  • SUE LEEDER Posted August 3, 2019 7:24 AM

    My thoughts and prayers to her family. Her wings were ready even though you were not.R.I.P. BEAUTIFUL LADY

  • Jeanne skelly Posted August 3, 2019 1:32 PM

    May her family find peace. I am thinking of you all. Hugs and prayers

  • Ann Wells Posted August 5, 2019 8:34 AM

    To Tina, Richard, Lori’s husband and children; My heart is so saddened over the passing of Lori. What a beautiful light she was in the world! I never ran into her that she didn’t give me a hug and stop to visit. I had the privilege sharing in her school years at Madrid-Waddington. Lori was such a success story, professionally as well as in her personal life. She always spoke with such pride when referring to her entire family. I will so miss not visiting with her. Please know that she will always be very special to so many. I wish for all, peace and comfort. RIP Lori!!!! You will forever remain in my heart.
    Ann Beldock-Wells

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